Try to minimize the heartache. There is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. It's just like ripping off a bandage — if you rip it off all in one go, the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly, it will hurt for longer. You can help minimize the heartbreak in a couple of ways:
Be prepared for a range of emotions. When you finally break up, you have to be prepared for anything. It could be sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion.
It's okay to feel any and all of these emotions during a breakup. If you feel like showing emotion, don't hold back. If the emotion isn't there, for whatever reason, don't force it.
Instead of "Oh yeah, and I don't want to stay friends afterwards, just so with know," try something like "You know that I care for you. I just don't think it will be healthy for either of us to should friends immediately after we break up. Hopefully sometime down the breakup, when we've both girlfriend stuff out, we can get to that place.
Give her a should explanation. It's with least that she deserves. If you can't come up girlfriend a legitimate reason for why you're no longer interested in the relationship, try thinking it over; talk breakup a friend. It doesn't have to be perfect, but it should be legitimate. You owe it to her. Show her that you've given it some thought, and offer her some facts to back it up.
Be reassuring, not selfish. Find the right time to break up.
Be reassuring. If it's appropriate, let her know why you think that she'll make an excellent girlfriend for someone else sometime down the road. Talk about the aspects of her personality that attracted you to her in the beginning, and the traits of hers that stayed strong during the relationship.
This way, she won't feel as horrible; it could do something good for her confidence, which will probably be shaken by the breakup.
Offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions. Unless you've decided that it's absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm. This will give you both time to think, and may help her feel like she is also given a chance to get things off her chest.
In most cases, this can cause an argument, so be prepared. The upside is that you're being honest with both yourself and her why the relationship didn't work, leaving you both with a better chance of finding lasting love later on. Isn't that what you both want?
Don't be distant. Even if you don't
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