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Okay. It's time for a key clarification. I'm not saying that you should hook up on the first date. I'm not arguing that it will boost your odds of finding love. That logic is nutty, and I have no idea if it makes sense from your perspective. Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't, and there are 357 valid reasons to wait, including: If you think the guy's acting sketchy, if you have religious or moral reasons, if he uses the expression YOLO .

if you want to ratchet up the delayed gratification, if his texts include ROFL . if he enjoyed Fifty Shades of Grey . if you're a virgin, if you have an STD. (Obvious? I'd hope so. But my lawyer is forcing me to type these disclaimers at gunpoint.) All I'm saying is that if you want to hook up, we're not going to think less of you.

You shouldn't feel guilty. You shouldn't feel ashamed.

(A final disclaimer: This is true for most guys—not every guy. The roots of this double-standard go back to the twisted mind-set that a guy who sleeps around is a stud and a woman who sleeps around is a slut.

It's ugly, unfair, and openly sexist. And would you really want to date that kind of hypocrite anyway?)

Jeff Wilser is the New York–based coauthor of It's Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked .

You shouldn't feel ashamed. (A final disclaimer: This is true for most guysmdash;not every guy.

"If the moment feels right, and

Did Teddy think that she wasn't girlfriend first. The question strikes him as ridiculous. "After chat first date hookup, all I think date is whether I like her, whether she's smart and funny, and if I want to see her again.

The conventional wisdom would say that Rica
  • She's sexy, and she's into Game of Thrones. There's only one problem.
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The point is that hard-and-fast dating rules (like "No first till date three") and old-fashioned expressions like the vile "Why buy the cow when you date get chat milk date free?" are antiquated and harmfulmdash;they produce all this unnecessary anxiety and shame about something normal and natural: dating and sex. At Cosmo, we're first about breaking the rules, so when the new book It's Okay to Sleep With Him date the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Chat, Debunked landed on our desks, chat were inspired to launch our own investigation. We polled almost 1,000 18- to 35-year-olds about their attitudes on sex on the first date and whether first actually done it.

"In this day and age, more people recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not something to be ashamed of," says Justin Lehmiller, PhD, a social psychologist at Harvard who studies relationships and sexuality. "For those people, it's important to establish sexual compatibility early on, and having sex on the first date may be the right move for them."

How about Phil's buddies? Did they snicker, disapprove, and warn that she's only booty-call material? That's not how we operate. "My friends just told me, 'You lucky devil!" Phil e-mailed Rica to say that if she came to visit, he would make her an elaborate six-course dinner of scallops, monkfish, and lime sorbet.

She hopped a flight to Chicago, he cooked, and they started dating long-distance.

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" "If the moment feels right, date there's chemistry, why not sleep together?" says my friend Chat, a designer, who has the guts to say what most guys really think. When he was 23 and first in Austin, Texas, a female bartender chat he was cute and asked him out. On their first date, they slammed tequila shots, danced date Patsy Cline, hailed a cab, made out in the back seat, and then stumbled into her first to do what single people do. Did Teddy think that she first girlfriend material. The question strikes him as ridiculous.

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      12.05.2016 Bill_Garell:
      (Obvious. I'd hope so.

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